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copteacher
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 17:37    Post subject: How would some of you handle this?
This past week, a sgt from another division of our PD had her dad die. I talked with my Sgt and he agreed that I can collect money from every guy on our squad and make a donation and send a card.

I usually do stuff like this and we only do it a few times a year for special occasions or other events.

The obituary said to donate to a charity of the donors choice. Since I organized and collected, I gave money to the charity that our family (and many of you) supports because of what they have done for Abby. I was given a tad bit of grief by a guy because he said he may be thought of as self serving. My Sgt said, you organized and collected, you can pick, if it were me (my sgt speaking) I would give to cancer (he is a cancer survivor).
He said any more grief tell the person to see him.

Everyone on my squad and the dept. for that matter know how good the charity is and how they have benefited our family.

I made the donation in her dad's memory for our whole squad. I think I did the right thing. Knowing sick kids are helped would be a great way to remember someone.

So far everyone I have mentioned this to agrees since there were little restrictions and I collected, I did the right thing.

What do yous (philly speak) think?
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 17:44    Post subject:
I think whoever gave you grief about it should kiss my a$$.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 18:00    Post subject:
I think you did the right thing. The obit gave the doner (in this case you, as you organized the donations) the choice of which charity to donate to. Everything seems reasonable to me.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 18:10    Post subject:
Pug wrote:
I think you did the right thing. The obit gave the doner (in this case you, as you organized the donations) the choice of which charity to donate to. Everything seems reasonable to me.


and good work. You made good decisions.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 18:10    Post subject:
"The obituary said to make a donation to a charity in the donar's choice".

If I read that statement right, then you did the right thing. I think the family requested that monies collected be put to good use however you see fit. By it being put in their loved one's name, the "gift" to help others as the deceased family wished is great.

You took the time to collect, organize and put the money towards a wonderful donation to better other people's lives. You did just as they wished. If this other guy didn't like it...tell him to (eat sh*t)...no tell him to do it himself next time. Otherwise, it's not his call to say anything.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 18:28    Post subject:
well at least you know it's a charity that is making a difference so that makes sense. i can see his point, but it's not right to give someone grief y'know? it's kind've an assclown thing to do. it would have been better for him to say "is there a charity the family would prefer?" everyone would pick different... good on you to take up the money though, it's still very honorable.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 18:30    Post subject:
You were right, the other guy is an idiot, hopefully just temporarily.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 18:48    Post subject:
akern wrote:
I think whoever gave you grief about it should kiss my a$$.


mines prolly bigger so

you done good po po. i think any donation in memory of a person is an honor to that person. and you were following the family's request!

a big sheeeeeeeeeeeeh to that complainer.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 20:10    Post subject:
agree with what was said here. I can also say too that I've probably got more back than any of the ladies here, so tell that guy to get his pucker on and send him my way. Mr. Green
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 20:54    Post subject:
Joe, it was your decision, you were the one who got up off his backside and took up the collection on behalf of your collegue. If the other bloke is still feeling precious, why not offer to return his donation back to him and he can donate it to the charity of his choice.
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PostPosted: 10/03/03 - 21:10    Post subject:
I hope the guy who thought you were self-serving said so only because he doesn't know you that well. You ought to have a clear conscience on this one.
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PostPosted: 10/04/03 - 20:52    Post subject:
I would not even dignify that with an answer. That would be acknowledging the complainer had a point of some kind. Let it go. Ignore it and if they bring it up again... tell them

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PostPosted: 10/04/03 - 21:01    Post subject:
I guess I would reach into my pocket give him back his contribution and "say here, you still can give to the charity of your choice". Should leave him speechless.
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PostPosted: 10/05/03 - 07:25    Post subject:
Joe you did fine! You did what was asked by the family so don't worry about it. If he gives you any other grief, take him out behind the headquarters and kick his a$$
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PostPosted: 10/05/03 - 07:52    Post subject:
My thought is that your squad just found its new morale officer
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